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Sexual Harassment at Work

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 12 Jul 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
What Constitutes Sexual Harassment At

The law makes it clear that sexual harassment is definitely not acceptable. Whilst there is no strict definition as to what constitutes sexual harassment, the Sex Discrimination Act gives you the legal right not to be sexually harassed at work and it is also unlawful to treat women (or men) less favourably because of their sex.

What Constitutes Sexual Harassment?

Sexual harassment constitutes any unwelcome behaviour of a sexual nature. It's not about fun or friendship but about the abuse of power. It is also worth bearing in mind that many people respond to situations in different ways. What may seem like an innocent action or remark to one person may be deemed offensive by another and the law sides with the 'victim' not the 'perpetrator'. Since there is no single definition, the test is how the recipient feels about the behaviour. Whilst men can also be subject to sexual harassment, the vast majority of cases have been by women against men. It is estimated that 50% of women in employment are, or have been, subject to sexual harassment of some form or other. It doesn't just happen to women who work in large offices or those who work within a predominantly male working environment; it can happen to people in any occupation, to any age group and from every community.

It can take place in many forms which can broadly be categorised in 3 groups:

Verbal

  • Comments about appearance, body or clothes
  • Indecent remarks
  • Questions or comments about your sex life
  • Requests for sexual favours
  • Sexual demands made by someone of the opposite sex, or even your own sex
  • Promises or threats concerning a person's employment conditions in return for sexual favours

Non-Verbal
  • Looking or staring at a person's body
  • Display of sexually explicit material such as calendars, pin ups or magazines

Physical
  • Physically touching, pinching, hugging, caressing, kissing
  • Sexual assault
  • Rape

What Can I do About Sexual Harassment?

In the first instance, you should try to confront the harasser. It may be that their perception of harassment is not the same as yours and they didn't realise you found their behaviour offensive. When you confront them you should:
  • Speak clearly and slowly, maintaining direct eye contact
  • Describe the behaviour, its effects on you and that you want it to stop
  • Ignore any attempts to trivialise or dismiss what you have to say
  • Don't smile or apologise. This will undermine your complaint
  • When you have finished what you want to say, walk away - the less you say, the more powerful you will be

However, you do need to speak up straight away. It may be that you choose a confidante, a colleague or union representative to give you moral support. They could also act as a witness to any incidents of improper behaviour.

If you feel you can't confront the harasser face to face, you might prefer to write to them to explain that their behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and that you want it to stop. Keep a copy of the letter and let them know that if their behaviour persists, you will take the matter further.

Keep a Diary

Note down all the behaviour that offends you, the dates, times and location where the behaviour took place and if there were any other people present, keep a record of their names. This will help you if you need to make an official complaint.

What if it Continues?

Once you've confronted the perpetrator, if the behaviour continues you need to tell your employer. Many employers have a procedure - follow it. Your employer should investigate your complaint and deal with it. You have the right to take someone with you to any meetings about your complaint. They can back you up if necessary. Once again, keep a written record of everything that happens.

When and Why Should I Take my Case to a Tribunal?

Employment Tribunals are external committees who assess whether employers have acted unlawfully and seek to resolve the problem. You should go to a tribunal if:
  • The harassment continues after you've told the perpetrator to stop and you've reported it to your employer
  • The harasser owns the company and there's no-one else to complain to
  • If you are not happy with the way the investigation was handled and/or you are not satisfied with the outcome

You MUST File Your Complaint Within 3 Months of The Incident Taking Place.

The Employment Tribunals Commission and your local Citizen's Advice Bureau can offer you excellent guidance and advice about this type of complaint.

Sexual harassment at work threatens your confidence and self-esteem. It can stop you working effectively, undermines your dignity and it can affect your health and happiness.

Nobody should be subjected to it. Fortunately, a variety of laws exist to protect you.

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My friend was sexually harassed at work and when she told (her supervisor) to stop he reduced her hours - She reported this to her employer who invited her in for a meeting where they inferred she’s had made it up so she resigned and offered to work her notice but asked not to work with him. They then fired her for Gross Misconduct but ACAS had told her she can’t really do anything about it because she doesn’t have 2 years service? Surely this isn’t accurate when it comes to sexual harassmen which was incorporated into the equality act in 2010? Any ideas??
ERQ - 12-Jul-18 @ 4:51 PM
Recently a working relationship I had at work has broken down due to inappropriate messages via a social media platform. I work in a moderately sized business and the office where I work we are sort of quite pally with each other. A couple of months back a new manager joined the company who works quite close to where I manage my team. We did not really start speaking until Mid April on a personal level and I had sent this person a friend request on Facebook. Almost immediately this person had sent me a message but did not accept the friend request with comment saying I was Fb stalking. The conversation continued that evening and by the end of it this person shared that they were talking in the buff to me. That was the first sign really for me but I didn’t want to think anything of it and we continued to message through fb. On occasions this person would say things that was not quite explicitly inappropriate but it was weird and I could not quite put my finger on it. At work this person would say things like “talking with benefits” when I’d explained that I was speaking to another friend at the other side of the office or that this person was going to “point old percy at the porcelain cup” just before we went out for a drink. Behaviour that I fount quite strange and questioned but again girlies not to think too much into it. This person works way past the normal contracted hours like I do so I did see this person as hard working and really keen to out in the extra hours. Early May at a works party it was his person’s first work function. I was told by someone else that this person had a partner which explained the reason for the fb friend request not being accepted. That night through fb again I made the point to ask them if they had a partner. Over the course of a couple of hours this person would not tell. Said things to gather information of who was asking. Turned it round to explain that I was attractive and would not be interested. The next day this person did tell me they had a partner and from then the conversation started to get more relaxed but less frequent. We completed some training together which resulted in a conversation that caused a lil concern. I’d messsged this person to check if they were ok and this person response suggested they may have had a tough day. I tried to make s suggestion which involved drinking “gin” and asked about their partner. This person advised they had more effective methods and that they can multi-task and that I was not pestering. Then this person mentioned that it was a technical method. Alarm bells did start to ring but the playful person I am, I’d just tried to ignore the fact that he was referring to something of a sexual nature. This person and I talked for hours that night and they suggested that it was less lonely when I talk to them. We talked about various stuff until the conversation took a turn when I gave a joke about running outside in next to n
Cece - 29-Jun-18 @ 9:27 PM
I'm male and I'm being sexually harassed and bulliedat Work by other males. threw gossip and lies Everyone seems to believe them even my assistant manager and manager have joined in to bully and sexually harrase me I've put in 1 complaint to head office and after an investigation i won and 3people received final written warnings but they still continue now they are putting complaints to management about me even though they have no evidence against me .just definitely feal my only option is a legal 1 at 39 years old I never thought I'd still be bullied and picked on and I have had enough.
Danny - 7-Jun-18 @ 7:07 PM
My partner works for a coffee chain. She was touched by a customer in an inappropriate way. He ran his fingers and nails up her arm. Her manager says he is not all there and has done nothing about it. My partner says it's an act and other female co workers agree. The perpetrator continues to come into the coffee shop and make overly suggestive comments and my partners appearance as well as stare at her for long periods. My partner feels helpless and that she has no choice but to stop working there. What can she do?
CaptainBob - 24-May-18 @ 8:35 PM
My boss asked me to attend an international event with him. We had to share a hotel room as we have limited finances. He began talking about sex and relationships, which I replied to with limited answers. Later in then day I told him that I felt uncomfortable sharing the room with him and that I didn’t want to put myself in that situation. He told me that he had no sexual intentions and that I could trust him. Later in the evening (2am!) he woke me up to tell me that he did want sex and that he liked me. I said that our relationship was strictly professional and that he should not cross that boundary. As it is just him and I in our normal office, how do I continue from here? I don’t want to quit my job but I don’t know how to face him after this.
Ontrain - 20-May-18 @ 9:44 PM
My boss is the owner of the company he makes my skin crawl made me a director I work part time he’s a joke
Nome - 20-Apr-18 @ 12:03 AM
juls - Your Question:
I was out yesterday on a co workers leaving do. there was a few of us but at about 10 pm one of the co workers felt me up and put his hand betwen my legs. I dont have proof or any witnesses is there anything I can do?

Our Response:
If it's awork-related/work organised social event, the Equality Act says your employer still has a duty to stop your colleagues from harassing you. Take a trusted colleague for moral support if you don't feel comfortable about reporting this directly yourself - but do report it to your manager or HR department.
SafeWorkers - 17-Apr-18 @ 9:20 AM
I was out yesterday on a co workers leaving do. there was a few of us but at about 10 pm one of the co workers felt me up and put his hand betwen my legs.. I dont have proof or any witnesses is there anything i can do?
juls - 16-Apr-18 @ 12:27 AM
Barbi - Your Question:
Hi there,I need advice. I work for a small company, we are four people. Last week we went out for lunch and then went to the pub. We're two girls and two guys. Myself and the other girl went for drinks with one of the guys who ended up giving us cocaine and then sexually assaulted my colleague in his car and then tried to coerce me into having sex with him too. I am scared and because of technical issues I had to move to the desk right next to him. I am in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I want to go to my boss but this incident affects my female colleague more than me and she doesn't want to go to our boss. Also I took drugs as well on that day so I'm scared I may get in trouble for that. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can talk to my boss without telling him about what happened to my female colleague too. What should I do?I suffered from depression and anxiety in the past and I am still in medication for it but this is slowly pushing me over the edge and I feel like I might have a full blown breakdown at work. Please let me know where I can get advice. Thank you!

Our Response:
We've answered this below. And deleted the other three identical posts you've made.
SafeWorkers - 11-Apr-18 @ 3:22 PM
Hi there, I need advice. I work for a small company, we are four people. Last week we went out for lunch and then went to the pub. We're two girls and two guys. Myself and the other girl went for drinks with one of the guys who ended up giving us cocaine and then sexually assaulted my colleague in his car and then tried to coerce me into having sex with him too. I am scared and because of technical issues I had to move to the desk right next to him. I am in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I want to go to my boss but this incident affects my female colleague more thanme and she doesn't want to go to our boss. Also I took drugs as well on that day so I'm scared I may get in trouble for that. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can talk to my boss without telling him about what happened to my female colleague too. What should I do? I suffered from depression and anxiety in the past and I am still in medication for it but this is slowly pushing me over the edge and I feel like I might have a full blown breakdown at work. Please let me know where I canget advice. Thank you!
Barbi - 11-Apr-18 @ 3:04 PM
Barbi - Your Question:
Hi there,I need advice. I work for a small company, we are four people. Last week we went out for lunch and then went to the pub. We're two girls and two guys. Myself and the other girl went for drinks with one of the guys who ended up giving us cocaine and then sexually assaulted my colleague in his car and then tried to coerce me into having sex with him too. I am scared and because of technical issues I had to move to the desk right next to him. I am in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I want to go to my boss but this incident affects my female colleague more than me and she doesn't want to go to our boss. Also I took drugs as well on that day so I'm scared I may get in trouble for that. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can talk to my boss without telling him about what happened to my female colleague too. What should I do?I suffered from depression and anxiety in the past and I am still in medication for it but this is slowly pushing me over the edge and I feel like I might have a full blown breakdown at work. Please let me know where I can get advice. Thank you!

Our Response:
If you feel you should report it you should do so, we can't really advise on the situation with your female colleague or the drugs, but you should talk to her and make a decision on what you want to do next. You clearly can't carry on as you are. As for who to get more advice from, ACAS is good for employment rights etc, and Citizens' Advice might be a good start for the other aspects.
SafeWorkers - 11-Apr-18 @ 2:12 PM
Hi there, I need advice. I work for a small company, we are four people. Last week we went out for lunch and then went to the pub. We're two girls and two guys. Myself and the other girl went for drinks with one of the guys who ended up giving us cocaine and then sexually assaulted my colleague in his car and then tried to coerce me into having sex with him too. I am scared and because of technical issues I had to move to the desk right next to him. I am in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I want to go to my boss but this incident affects my female colleague more thanme and she doesn't want to go to our boss. Also I took drugs as well on that day so I'm scared I may get in trouble for that. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure I can talk to my boss without telling him about what happened to my female colleague too. What should I do? I suffered from depression and anxiety in the past and I am still in medication for it but this is slowly pushing me over the edge and I feel like I might have a full blown breakdown at work. Please let me know where I canget advice. Thank you!
Barbi - 11-Apr-18 @ 1:33 PM
Mop- Your Question:
A man I've worked with for years and always respected for his knowledge of our job has recently started to touch my bottom when I walk past him !The first time he did it I just said to him hands off and walked away !It's happened 3 times since then !On 1 occasion an other colleague saw him do it as I was walking past him to go outside !Then this week I was stood with my back to the wall when he walked past and he run his hand across my legs then later that day leaned over me and whispered hello sexy in my hear ! I just ignored him and walked away !I'm worried if I report him at work that this will get bad for me ! As he's worked there for 50 years and well respected by everyone ! myself for 27 years and to my knowledge he's never done anything like this before !I just don't know what to do for the best ! I want it to stop but don't want to make things awkward at work !My husband is fuming and threatening to come to work to sort him out ! I don't want that either ! Has anyone any idea what I can do ?

Our Response:
Is there someone else you can talk to about this at your work? If not, you really have no choice but to report it. Your employer may be able to resolve this so that your colleague is made aware that it is unacceptable behaviour and should not repeat it (if that's what you're comfortable with).
SafeWorkers - 27-Mar-18 @ 12:44 PM
A man I've worked with for years and always respected for his knowledge of our job has recently started to touch my bottom when I walk past him ! The first time he did it I just said to him hands off and walked away ! It's happened 3 times since then ! On 1 occasion an other colleague saw him do it as I was walking past him to go outside ! Then this week I was stood with my back to the wall when he walked past and he run his hand across my legs then later that day leaned over me and whispered hello sexy in my hear ! I just ignored him and walked away ! I'm worried if I report him at work that this will get bad for me ! As he's worked there for 50 years and well respected by everyone ! myself for 27 years and to my knowledge he's never done anything like this before ! I just don't know what to do for the best ! I want it to stop but don't want to make things awkward at work ! My husband is fuming and threatening to come to work to sort him out ! I don't want that either ! Has anyone any idea what I can do ?
Mop - 24-Mar-18 @ 9:31 PM
@Charlie. It may be too late tomake a formal complaint of sexual harassment but it may be useful to highlight these activities to prevent others from being subjected to similar treatment?
Lateteen Eighteen - 30-Jan-18 @ 12:55 PM
Foolishly I didn’t log any incidents and felt too intimidated to speak up as it was the owner of the company I work for who was the harasser. Sexual remarks were made when I fell pregnant (my partner also works for same company) remarks about my daughters conception, quite explicit. He would touch me if he walked past me and when I called in to pick something up while on maternity leavehe crept up behind me pulled my hair away from my neck and whispered close to my skin. It made me feel sick. Leaving work one day while pregnant he unzipped my coat to touch my tummy after I’d repeatedly refused to let him during the day when he’d tried to. Works Christmas party tonight with an award ceremony,a new award was created this year for best stag 3 of the guys that work for company who’s wives are expecting or have just had babies were given stag head trophy’s and packs of condoms. Unfortunately I’ve got so many more examples from working there I could share but there we go. I’m sad for the friends I’ll leave behind but in many ways very glad to be leaving. The owner encourages a culture of sexual hostility and bullies and intimidates to get his own way.Never thought I’d be made to feel that way working anywhere,it is 2018 after all.
Charlie - 29-Jan-18 @ 12:35 AM
I have a cousin who suffers from depression and anxiety she works in a mix office and one of her male colleague often text her outside of work about how she is feeling because of her mental health conditions recently he's been sending messages containing many sexual content towards her unfortunately my cousin cannot see that this is leading 2 sexual harassment or this guy wants sex with her even though he is a married person with a family. how can I best approach my cousin so that her eyes can be fully open and be aware of the situation, as she has already had someone close to her that she knows attempted to rape rape her. she doesn't do herself as sexually attractive or her body to be beautiful because of her depression, she actually hates her body and hates herself but she cannot see how beautiful she is she carries herself with natural Elegance elegance when she walks and this is has a real sexual appeal towards the opposite sex. she cannot see this in herself, she think that she is not sexy she doesn't walk sexy, whatever she wears whatever she puts on she looks elegant in it. because she carries herself really welli I am afraid that this work colleague is going to take her in her confidence and take advantage of her mental situation and try to have sex with her I want to see the danger before this happens how can I help her.
None - 8-Jan-18 @ 11:36 AM
Blondie - Your Question:
Hi,I have been sexually harassed by a fellow colleague at work, on the first incident he wouldn't leave me alone on the shift which I thought was friendly banter, he later started messaging me out of work asking me out for a drink as mates and I said fine. He then started sending me sexually explicit images of himself and asking me sexual questions about other colleagues via Facebook, I generally ignored these messages and told him I wasn't interested in being his friend. When I was next on shift with him, he wouldn't leave me alone again and started telling me I was showing too much skin because my top button was undone, calling me gorgeous, and telling other colleagues I was flirting with him. A manager came to me and said am I comfortable working with him? To which I said I could handle him. I told him I wasn't interested in him again and told him to leave me alone which he did for two weeks. He then started messaging me again out of work, asking me out on a date, getting mad at me when I declined and asking who I liked instead and getting mad when I said nobody and then starting to swear at me. I said I would be his mate which he was fine with, but then he started talking sexually again so I told him to leave me alone.I then told another colleague who took it to our boss, who said we are adults and what we get up to on facebook is our business, made me have a face to face conversation with him and told me he was only trying to get a woman. I still have to work with him and the guy is now gloating about the fact he has got away with it when nobody's around. I have now refused to work with him and the boss told me when he gloats e.g. Laughs laugh back at him, and all this started because someone else brought it to us not you, basically that you was happy until your colleague complained about him? The boss is unwilling to do anything because it was out of work and because I said I could handle it it's a grey area? Is this the case or can I do something?

Our Response:
If the harassment is ongoing you note down specific examples and report it again (you must do this within 3 months of the event). If you're not happy with the action taken - consider taking it further as described in the article. Our guide: Sexual Harassment - Your Questions Answered might also help.
SafeWorkers - 3-Jan-18 @ 2:22 PM
Hi, I have been sexually harassed by a fellow colleague at work, on the first incident he wouldn't leave me alone on the shift which I thought was friendly banter, he later started messaging me out of work asking me out for a drink as mates and I said fine. He then started sending me sexually explicit images of himself and asking me sexual questions about other colleagues via Facebook, I generally ignored these messages and told him I wasn't interested in being his friend. When I was next on shift with him, he wouldn't leave me alone again and started telling me I was showing too much skin because my top button was undone, calling me gorgeous, and telling other colleagues I was flirting with him. A manager came to me and said am I comfortable working with him? To which I said I could handle him. I told him I wasn't interested in him again and told him to leave me alone which he did for two weeks. He then started messaging me again out of work, asking me out on a date, getting mad at me when I declined and asking who I liked instead and getting mad when I said nobody and then starting to swear at me. I said I would be his mate which he was fine with, but then he started talking sexually again so I told him to leave me alone. I then told another colleague who took it to our boss, who said we are adults and what we get up to on facebook is our business, made me have a face to face conversation with him and told me he was only trying to get a woman. I still have to work with him and the guy is now gloating about the fact he has got away with it when nobody's around. I have now refused to work with him and the boss told me when he gloats e.g. Laughs laugh back at him, and all this started because someone else brought it to us not you, basically that you was happy until your colleague complained about him? The boss is unwilling to do anything because it was out of work and because I said I could handle it it's a grey area? Is this the case or can I do something?
Blondie - 30-Dec-17 @ 9:58 PM
Hi, I am being sexually harrassed by my manager at a food establishment, but im scared to report it as I receive cash in hand for the shift I do. I have had the manager come onto me more than once and ive made my position very clear that im there to work my one shift and nothing else, I have received messages that state he would like to make love to me and that its a friend helpping a friend out !!!! Again ive told him its crossing a line and makes me uncomfortable , what can I do without getting into too much trouble myself.
Jollyjulie - 22-Dec-17 @ 5:55 AM
Letha - Your Question:
I started work on 6 November and my employer started showing interest in me. He started texting me and when I didn't respond he got angry. So I responded and said all he wanted to hear because I was scared I work from his home and he kept telling me that he created the job for me and he wants me to be successful. He started touching me inappropriately and tried to kiss me he asked pictures from me but I didn't send them. I once asked him how much he is willing to pay to see those pictures I didn't mean anything by this I was just continuing with the conversation to keep him from touching me

Our Response:
If the person doing this is your employer you may have to consider taking this to a tribunal. See our guide here for more information/a>
SafeWorkers - 15-Dec-17 @ 11:57 AM
I started work on 6 November and my employer started showing interest in me. He started texting me and when I didn't respond he got angry. So I responded and said all he wanted to hear because I was scared I work from his home and he kept telling me that he created the job for me and he wants me to be successful. He started touching me inappropriately and tried to kiss me he asked pictures from me but I didn't send them. I once asked him how much he is willing to pay to see those pictures I didn't mean anything by this i was just continuing with the conversation to keep him from touching me
Letha - 12-Dec-17 @ 3:33 PM
I have had a frosty reception from the day I started with this certain company .A manager claims my friend is a tea and biscuits girl but I'm more of a group orgy girl he could and would not explain why . The woman in the office do not like me I get glared at and when I say good morning no one replys I am well presented and good at my job . I also asked my manager if I would be there next year and was told prob not but the company would help me look for another job I have have my all to this company and I'm very professional no reasons or explanations have been given to me .What do I do apart from walk away
Emoji123 - 5-Dec-17 @ 8:37 PM
Rusty - Your Question:
Hi I work for a large quarrying company tarmac crh were bullying is rife. I've just returned off the sick after cancer treatment and already been shouted down to and threatened by my supervisor. Other workers have been treated the same and when someone complains management don't want to know what do you think is the best thing to do please.

Our Response:
If management hasn't responded and there are no higher sections to report this to (HR, CEO team etc) or a trade union to help, then you may have to report it to a tribunal. ACAS is the first step before a tribunal can be considered.
SafeWorkers - 5-Dec-17 @ 1:39 PM
Hi i work for a large quarrying company tarmac crh were bullying is rife . I've just returned off the sick after cancer treatment and already been shouted down to and threatened by my supervisor . Other workers have been treated the same and when someone complains management don't want to knowwhat do you think is the best thing to do please.
Rusty - 2-Dec-17 @ 10:15 PM
I was sexually harassed at work and eventually left my job due to stress. I was unable to work for 3 years and after 5 years went back to work full time. I did not pursue a case as I was under an enormous amount of stress and did not feel I would get support from the council or my union.Although this happened years ago I would like to know if I can address it now with the council.
AK - 24-Oct-17 @ 11:30 AM
Grace - Your Question:
I worked in private care as a care giver , working without a contract a it's private.The gentleman was touching me inappropriately and I told the daughter as she was the one in charge of us carers.He obviously got told off and didn't do it again , however he was innappropriate in other ways , verbally and to other carers too. The wife and daughter knew this but we were told to set the boundaries.I felt like they weren't helping us emotionally , after my first incident after telling them I suffer from ptsd.They never asked if I was okay.I have quit as the last shift , he was really inappropriate, as part of my duty is to wash him , as washing bellow he said 'oh that feels too good' , I said that was inappropriate then he replied 'I thought I was doing so well , by not being handsy with you' in a moking way. I told his wife and she just said you need to tell him , so just continued the day but feeling very vulnerable and not listened too. Until he made another statement.Whilst outside he was about to say something , then stopped I asked what he was going to say , he then replied 'No it's rude and you would see it as being inappropriate ' really sarcastic.I then went inside , felt really upset continued the shift , till I went home.My partner works in insurance and is in underwriting , he said that they haven't handled any of this well and made it a safe working environment, so together we wrote a email To the daughter.As they only employ female carers and this isn't the first incident a carer has encounted with him.It's sexual harrasement and I'm trying to claim against them but just need help knowing my rights.Thank you.

Our Response:
You may be working inprivate home but you are still employed and should have a contract (
this page for more information) . Your employer also has a duty of care towards you. If you claims are not being taken seriously, you may be able to take it to a tribunal - you must contactACAS befoer doing so
SafeWorkers - 20-Oct-17 @ 3:08 PM
I worked in private care as a care giver , working without a contract a it's private. The gentleman was touching me inappropriately and I told the daughter as she was the one in charge of us carers. He obviously got told off and didn't do it again , however he was innappropriate in other ways , verbally and to other carers too. The wife and daughter knew this but we were told to set the boundaries . I felt like they weren't helping us emotionally , after my first incident after telling them I suffer from ptsd. They never asked if I was okay . I have quit as the last shift , he was really inappropriate, as part of my duty is to wash him , as washing bellow he said 'oh that feels too good' , I said that was inappropriate then he replied 'I thought I was doing so well , by not being handsy with you' in a moking way. I told his wife and she just said you need to tell him , so just continued the day but feeling very vulnerable and not listened too. Until he madeanother statement . Whilst outside he was about to say something , then stopped I asked what he was going to say , he then replied 'No it's rude and you would see it as being inappropriate ' really sarcastic . I then went inside , felt really upset continued the shift , till I went home . My partner works in insurance and is in underwriting , he said that they haven't handled any of this well and made it a safe working environment, so together we wrote a email To the daughter . As they only employ female carers and this isn't the first incident a carer has encounted with him . It's sexual harrasement and I'm trying to claim against them but just need help knowing my rights. Thank you .
Grace - 18-Oct-17 @ 2:14 PM
MooreyL - Your Question:
My husbands work colleagues are always making sexual comments about me to him and my son (they work in the same place). They say to both of them that they're going to 'sleep' with me. If they see me in public they then pass more sexual comments to them. This is now getting beyond a joke as it's daily, sometimes multiple times a day. My husband has told them to stop but they continue. Can my husband complain to HR on the grounds of sexual harassment? In my eyes it is, it's no longer just banter and they make my skin crawl when I do see them.

Our Response:
Since you don't work there it's not likely to fall into the same category as workplace Sexual harrassment. Your husband could make a complaint to his employer about the comments being made by his colleagues.
SafeWorkers - 10-Oct-17 @ 11:19 AM
Beenie - Your Question:
Where I work I live on site in staff accommodation, ive had an incidence where one night all the staff were drinking including one of the owners of the company, they all went to the local town except him. I was in the house sober as I was on duty for the night and he came up to my room and knocked on my door which I had locked. I answered as I thought something was wrong and he first of all asked for a hug which I awkwardly gave but then he tried to get more from me and kiss me. I had yo physically push him out the door and clearly said no. The business is a family run one so I didn't think anyone would believe me if I said anything but I broke down to a close friend and it's left me feeling very insecure and I'm a previous depression and anxiety sufferer so it's triggered bouts of that. I don't know what to do or where I stand. I'm now leaving the job but I don't want him to get away with it.

Our Response:
Don't let this kind of behaviour destroy you. If there is another manager that you can talk to, please do. If the manager cannot help to resolve the matter, you should simply follow your company's formal grievance procedure (all companies should have one of these by law). Sexual harassment claims can be referred to an Employment Tribunal. You only have 3 months minus 1 day from when the last harassment occurred to refer the matter to the Tribunal though so it may be that you have to make a decision about a Tribunal case before your company's grievance procedure has completed.This information and more is all contained in our guide here
SafeWorkers - 10-Oct-17 @ 11:00 AM
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