Home > Case Studies > Stress Almost Ruined My Career: A Case Study

Stress Almost Ruined My Career: A Case Study

By: Kevin Watson MSc - Updated: 19 Sep 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Stress Almost Ruined My Career: A Case Study

Poppy Castle had a secure job and what she thought was a happy home life. Her husband then suddenly divorced her and moved to Australia, leaving Poppy with a young child and a house with a large mortgage.

First Reaction

“When John (my husband) left me with a child and the house to pay for, my first thought was to give up work. How could I cope with the Stress of childcare and all the household expenses by myself? I had a relatively secure job, and some good prospects, but the wage wasn’t that great.

“My friends at work, though, told me to hang in there. They felt that because I was good at my work, I should stay put and apply for whatever help I could in the way of benefits, and so on.

“I took my friends’ advice, but I began to feel stressed at both home and in the workplace. The financial pressure was getting me down.

“A chance for promotion then came up, so I applied for it. Everyone said I should get it, but because of the stress I was under, I didn’t prepare properly. I also didn’t pay enough attention to the questions at the interview. So, of course, I failed."

Threat of Redundancy

“Failure of this sort doesn’t do your self-esteem any good. Still, I had to get on with things. My friends were a great help, and so was my manager. She told me that there’d be other chances for promotion and I’d get there in the end.

“Then another problem arose in the form of Redundancy. The redundancy was a rumour, but the company was going through a rough patch, and job losses were all that people could talk about. This upset me, because despite the promotion knock-back, I was coming to terms with my life.

“The redundancy talk turned out to be just that - talk - but I could have done without the rumours. I knew all this stress was beginning to affect the quality of my work. "

Workplace Stalker

“And then to add to my troubles, a guy called Peter from Accounts began hassling me. One day out of the blue in the canteen, he asked if he could sit next to me. He then said he wanted to go out with me.

“Another relationship was the last thing on my mind, and I explained this to Peter. But over the next few weeks, he phoned me, emailed me, and came to see me at my desk, trying to get me to go out with him.

“Frankly, the pressure of this on top of my financial worries, made me think seriously about leaving work. In fact, in a moment of panic and stress, I wrote a letter of resignation and gave it to my manager. "

Turning Point

“This was something of a turning point. My manager advised me to take a day off and think carefully about what I was doing. She didn’t want me to leave, and she knew that there was going to be another opportunity for promotion within the next few weeks.

“I said that was fine, but I was stressed about Peter. My manager listened to what I told her, and then said she’d see what she could do about him. What in fact she did do was see Peter’s boss the next day. Between them, they banned him from seeing or communicating with me at work.

“After this chat, and once my manager had put Peter in his place, so to speak, things started to look up. The promotion opportunity did come again, and I did succeed the second time round. Things are still tough financially, but with the support of workplace friends and my manager, I’m much happier.”

You might also like...
Share Your Story, Join the Discussion or Seek Advice..
Why not be the first to leave a comment for discussion, ask for advice or share your story...

If you'd like to ask a question one of our experts (workload permitting) or a helpful reader hopefully can help you... We also love comments and interesting stories

Title:
(never shown)
Firstname:
(never shown)
Surname:
(never shown)
Email:
(never shown)
Nickname:
(shown)
Comment:
Validate:
Enter word:
Latest Comments
  • Mart
    Re: Holiday Pay & Overtime: The Changes
    I work in the security area. My rota is 4 on 4 off nights. However i usually work around 25 shifts per month.…
    17 April 2019
  • Leonardo
    Re: Violence at Work
    I was a victim on March 27, 2019 in workplace, one of my colleagues, was thrown, kicked my buckets and pour water on the ground in the presence of…
    16 April 2019
  • Branchy
    Re: Working At Night
    I work permanent 12 hour nights - 3 days per week - 36 hours per week. How is my average worked out for the no more than 8 hours in 24 over a 17…
    12 April 2019
  • Shiva
    Re: Employer Has Changed My Shifts: What Are My Rights?
    Hi I have been working for job and talent agency from 2018 October 20. Then last couple of weeks I…
    12 April 2019
  • Vicky
    Re: Safe Working Temperatures
    I work in a mill cleaning for 4 hours in a morning, there is no air con and I'm not allowed a break, is there a law that states I cant…
    11 April 2019
  • Jimmy
    Re: Working At Night
    Hi I work night is it legal to work a 12 hour shift then an hour after finishing being told to do a days training
    11 April 2019
  • Missjane
    Re: Zero Hours Contracts Explained
    My work place has closed for a refurbishment and I am a working mother 9-3 mon -Friday they r closed and have shipped us out to…
    9 April 2019
  • Nicky P
    Re: When Your Employer Changes Your Working Hours
    Hi there, I currently work at a hotel (worked there for a year) that is beside the restaurant that I have…
    9 April 2019
  • Moi
    Re: Can my Employer Fire Me?
    My manager was leaving the restaurant I work at , before he left he told all staff to stay and have a drink , which we did , a new…
    8 April 2019
  • Upset
    Re: Cancer: Your Rights as an Employee
    My Rota as been messed about with while I 've been off and now I have a really crap Rota I have complained but we're do I…
    8 April 2019