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Sexual Harassment at Work

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 29 Apr 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
What Constitutes Sexual Harassment At

The law makes it clear that sexual harassment is definitely not acceptable. Whilst there is no strict definition as to what constitutes sexual harassment, the Sex Discrimination Act gives you the legal right not to be sexually harassed at work and it is also unlawful to treat women (or men) less favourably because of their sex.

What Constitutes Sexual Harassment?

Sexual harassment constitutes any unwelcome behaviour of a sexual nature. It's not about fun or friendship but about the abuse of power. It is also worth bearing in mind that many people respond to situations in different ways. What may seem like an innocent action or remark to one person may be deemed offensive by another and the law sides with the 'victim' not the 'perpetrator'. Since there is no single definition, the test is how the recipient feels about the behaviour. Whilst men can also be subject to sexual harassment, the vast majority of cases have been by women against men. It is estimated that 50% of women in employment are, or have been, subject to sexual harassment of some form or other. It doesn't just happen to women who work in large offices or those who work within a predominantly male working environment; it can happen to people in any occupation, to any age group and from every community.

It can take place in many forms which can broadly be categorised in 3 groups:

Verbal

  • Comments about appearance, body or clothes
  • Indecent remarks
  • Questions or comments about your sex life
  • Requests for sexual favours
  • Sexual demands made by someone of the opposite sex, or even your own sex
  • Promises or threats concerning a person's employment conditions in return for sexual favours

Non-Verbal
  • Looking or staring at a person's body
  • Display of sexually explicit material such as calendars, pin ups or magazines

Physical
  • Physically touching, pinching, hugging, caressing, kissing
  • Sexual assault
  • Rape

What Can I do About Sexual Harassment?

In the first instance, you should try to confront the harasser. It may be that their perception of harassment is not the same as yours and they didn't realise you found their behaviour offensive. When you confront them you should:
  • Speak clearly and slowly, maintaining direct eye contact
  • Describe the behaviour, its effects on you and that you want it to stop
  • Ignore any attempts to trivialise or dismiss what you have to say
  • Don't smile or apologise. This will undermine your complaint
  • When you have finished what you want to say, walk away - the less you say, the more powerful you will be

However, you do need to speak up straight away. It may be that you choose a confidante, a colleague or union representative to give you moral support. They could also act as a witness to any incidents of improper behaviour.

If you feel you can't confront the harasser face to face, you might prefer to write to them to explain that their behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and that you want it to stop. Keep a copy of the letter and let them know that if their behaviour persists, you will take the matter further.

Keep a Diary

Note down all the behaviour that offends you, the dates, times and location where the behaviour took place and if there were any other people present, keep a record of their names. This will help you if you need to make an official complaint.

What if it Continues?

Once you've confronted the perpetrator, if the behaviour continues you need to tell your employer. Many employers have a procedure - follow it. Your employer should investigate your complaint and deal with it. You have the right to take someone with you to any meetings about your complaint. They can back you up if necessary. Once again, keep a written record of everything that happens.

When and Why Should I Take my Case to a Tribunal?

Employment Tribunals are external committees who assess whether employers have acted unlawfully and seek to resolve the problem. You should go to a tribunal if:
  • The harassment continues after you've told the perpetrator to stop and you've reported it to your employer
  • The harasser owns the company and there's no-one else to complain to
  • If you are not happy with the way the investigation was handled and/or you are not satisfied with the outcome

You MUST File Your Complaint Within 3 Months of The Incident Taking Place.

The Employment Tribunals Commission and your local Citizen's Advice Bureau can offer you excellent guidance and advice about this type of complaint.

Sexual harassment at work threatens your confidence and self-esteem. It can stop you working effectively, undermines your dignity and it can affect your health and happiness.

Nobody should be subjected to it. Fortunately, a variety of laws exist to protect you.

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i was attacked by the mecanic in our company put his hands round my neck and pushed me backwards onto a desk i wrote statement he admitted it but not sure where it goes now i am in charge of him but dont want to ask him to do anything incase it happens again
al - 29-Apr-16 @ 1:37 PM
PT - Your Question:
I work in a gym so already it's a male dominated workplace. With mainly guys it can get very out of hand sometimes, the things they say about women not only on the gym floor but that are in the staff room (myself included) does get to us. Unwanted questions about sex lives are asked, if one of the girls talk over a certain 'lad' the response is usually 'shut your mouth before I make you choke on something' most days, the one 'ringleader' will strip off completely naked, for no other reason that he is 19 and thinks he is hillarious. Unfortunately 5 out of 10 of the guys egg him on and those 5 are in work a lot. this happens in the staff room where we EAT and come to take a break. He regularly will touch his genetalia and then walk up to people (myself included) and try and touch you with his hands. He will then sit and eat his food with his hands without washing them. He happens to be a 'rugby lad' and thinks it's okay to act like that in work. Last week I was about to do kickboxing with another male member, before leaving the staff room I jabbed him twice in the arm, not too hard but not exactly light. (I am a 5'3 girl and I have no prior experience with punches and the likes.) he seemed fine at this moment and 5 minutes later followed us out to the studio to watch us train. When I came back into the staff room my co worker (female) told me he said if she thinks she can punch me I can do this. Then proceeded to rub his genetals on my phone I left on charge. What should I do?

Our Response:
Report it to the manager of course. Please read the above article and our Guide: Sexual Harrassment, your questions answered
SafeWorkers - 28-Apr-16 @ 12:06 PM
I work in a gym so already it's a male dominated workplace. With mainly guys it can get very out of hand sometimes, the things they say about women not only on the gym floor but that are in the staff room (myself included) does get to us. Unwanted questions about sex lives are asked, if one of the girls talk over a certain 'lad' the response is usually 'shut your mouth before I make you choke on something' most days, the one 'ringleader' will strip off completely naked, for no other reason that he is 19 and thinks he is hillarious. Unfortunately 5 out of 10 of the guys egg him on and those 5 are in work a lot. this happens in the staff room where we EAT and come to take a break. He regularly will touch his genetalia and then walk up to people (myself included) and try and touch you with his hands. He will then sit and eat his food with his hands without washing them. He happens to be a 'rugby lad' and thinks it's okay to act like that in work. Last week i was about to do kickboxing with another male member, before leaving the staff room I jabbed him twice in the arm, not too hard but not exactly light. (I am a 5'3 girl and I have no prior experience with punches and the likes..) he seemed fine at this moment and 5 minutes later followed us out to the studio to watch us train. When I came back into the staff room my co worker (female) told me he said if she thinks she can punch me I can do this... Then proceeded to rub his genetals on my phone I left on charge. What should I do?
PT - 27-Apr-16 @ 1:23 PM
Hi I recently left my job as I was being sexually harassed for months I told the person to stop on several occasions and he still didn't. I'm 19 years old the bloke is 45, he would say thing to Me like he like looking at me and he would like me to stand in corner all day so he could stare and touch me when ever , he said things like he'd like to give me one even if I didn't like and sing songs saying my name and k was his type girl and plenty more . I took it to the store manger after suffering alone for 5 months as I got to the point of not being able to take it no more to scared to go to work not sleeping or eating I was that worried. The store took my notes and then came to the conclusion that he would not be asked he would work alongside me but been told he can not talk to me or even look at me. I still didn't feel Comfortable going to work with this out come I cried and cried my eyes out and refused to go to work , I then said I wasn't okay with the outcome I was so upset I just quit . I want to know if I can do any thing about this as apparently I'm not the first person he has done this to .
Mad - 21-Apr-16 @ 9:37 PM
I have recently walked out on my job as a sales assistant. My bosses were brother and sister,he would say sexual comments and things that were inappropriate.The sister knew as I told her when it started, she agreed it was sexual harassment.Although it continued to the point of me walking out of my job. This was in February 2016, what should I do?
Shorty - 11-Apr-16 @ 4:43 PM
BJ - Your Question:
Hi I have a very close friend who only recently left her hone in France to travel here to work as a French assistant at a very reputable and expensive private all girls school.A male colleague regularly began to say inappropriate things to her such as how he has a lot of money and that she should work as a prostitute to earn better money than as an assistant. I was talked out of confronting him about his behaviour as she was afraid of loosing her job because in France these kinds of sexual harassment are not taken seriously.Eventually she made it clear that she was not interested in him in any way. They both live next door to each other in school owned houses so he is never far away. One night after the staff all went out to the pub he offered to drive her home despite having had been drinking. She felt safe because she had already explained that she is not attracted to him and assumed that he would respect that. However after going to his house for a coffee he forced her to the floor, kissing her and touching her body. She fought back for about a minute thinking that he was going to rape her. Thankfully he gave up as she was resisting as much as she possibly could. He then angrily demanded to know why she wouldn't sleep with him before she had the chance to leave.A day later she told her languages head who is her main point of call for anything that she needs. Despite appearing upset about it she said that there is nothing they can really do. I feel like they aren't taking it seriously at all and are more concerned with the schools reputation being tarnished than keeping their staff and their students safe. He acts like nothing happened and she must work and live next door to him even after he has assaulted her. Apparently it is known that he is unprofessional as he has a reputation for always talking about sex with his female colleagues. I feel like the girls who he teaches are at high risk of being abused as it's a boarding school up to 18 years old of all girls.My friend feels like nobody cares or will take her seriously so she is too afraid to go to the police as she thinks that it will cost her the job which she loves. She wants to just forget about it but fears that he could target more vulnerable students as well as her again as he has already got away with it once I told her that her employer would take action as it's very serious here in the UK unlike France but they couldn't care any less. I feel daft for telling her how helpful the school would be. What else can she do to get them to take her seriously but without risking her job there? I warned her just based on the vernal abuse that he was a dangerous person and clearly he feels like he can get away with verbal and physical sexual harassment that could have been even more serious had she not fought back.Please reply to me as we are at such a kiss about what to do now. How can an all girls school get away with being so uninterested in allegations such as the

Our Response:
Tell your friend to go back to her department head and say that she wants it officially recording as a report of sexual harrassment and that she has worries about the girls at the school. If her department head will not take this further, then the head of the school followed by an employment tribunal are the next options (ACAS will be able to advise on these issues if you need to talk to someone about this on an individual basis). Please read this article for more detail
SafeWorkers - 1-Apr-16 @ 10:20 AM
Hi I have a very close friend who only recently left her hone in France to travel here to work as a French assistant at a very reputable and expensive private all girls school. A male colleague regularly began to say inappropriate things to her such as how he has a lot of money and that she should work as a prostitute to earn better money than as an assistant. I was talked out of confronting him about his behaviour as she was afraid of loosing her job because in France these kinds of sexual harassment are not taken seriously. Eventually she made it clear that she was not interested in him in any way. They both live next door to each other in school owned houses so he is never far away. One night after the staff all went out to the pub he offered to drive her home despite having had been drinking. She felt safe because she had already explained that she is not attracted to him and assumed that he would respect that. However after going to his house for a coffee he forced her to the floor, kissing her and touching her body. She fought back for about a minute thinking that he was going to rape her. Thankfully he gave up as she was resisting as much as she possibly could. He then angrily demanded to know why she wouldn't sleep with him before she had the chance to leave. A day later she told her languages head who is her main point of call for anything that she needs. Despite appearing upset about it she said that there is nothing they can really do. I feel like they aren't taking it seriously at all and are more concerned with the schools reputation being tarnished than keeping their staff and their students safe. He acts like nothing happened and she must work and live next door to him even after he has assaulted her. Apparently it is known that he is unprofessional as he has a reputation for always talking about sex with his female colleagues. I feel like the girls who he teaches are at high risk of being abused as it's a boarding school up to 18 years old of all girls. My friend feels like nobody cares or will take her seriously so she is too afraid to go to the police as she thinks that it will cost her the job which she loves. She wants to just forget about it but fears that he could target more vulnerable students as well as her again as he has already got away with it onceI told her that her employer would take action as it's very serious here in the UK unlike France but they couldn't care any less. I feel daft for telling her how helpful the school would be. What else can she do to get them to take her seriously but without risking her job there? I warned her just based on the vernal abuse that he was a dangerous person and clearly he feels like he can get away with verbal and physical sexual harassment that could have been even more serious had she not fought back. Please reply to me as we are at such a kiss about what to do now. How can an all girls school get away with being so uninterested in allegations such as the
BJ - 25-Mar-16 @ 3:05 AM
bex - Your Question:
I have a little job in an takeaway shop I have been working there for about 3 years I am the only female. My very good friend got me the job there I have never had any problems till tonight. Basically my friend left on sunday to go to a new career and also on holiday I had Monday off anyway so tonight was my first night in without my friend working there not just their day off but left completely and the owners friend who I've met before several times gave me a hug quite a tight hug and as he hugged me he squeezed my boob several times I'm trying to pull away but he wouldn't let go until I really forced back. I immediately rang my friend who is currently abroad no answer I txt them aswell and he responded as quick as he could. He knows the perpetrator which I have to say doesn't talk very good English none of them do really except my friend he said leave it with me to sort out. I trust him with my life but what I am asking is there anything I should do as it's a takeaway shop so not having a contract is harder.

Our Response:
You do have a contract even if you have not been given a copy of it. Talk to the owner and say you want this person warned (or dimissed if that's what you feel is appropriate). If the owner does nothing, you should file a formal grievance and contact ACAS on 0300 123 1100.
SafeWorkers - 23-Mar-16 @ 11:06 AM
Hi I have worked at my job for 3 years in witch I get sexualy harassed every day at work. I work at a school it happens in front of the kids at times. He touches me when I tell him not to he does it again all day. He says what he wants to do to me in a sexual nature.I turned him in. They are handling it very strongly. Yet I asked if my husband can sit in on the meetings with me. They said no! I explained time after time I was uncomfortable with all of this. They made me repeat the whole story 3 times. They even called in coworkers so they now know. It was all caught on camera. So my employers know it's not a lie. But I feel so guilty sad I feel bad for the guy I'm glad they are handling it. But at the same time I'm mad at this whole situation and my husband doesn't understand my feelings. And yet neither do I.
Amanda - 18-Mar-16 @ 2:24 PM
Hi I was spanked by a client( director of a company) in a building I work in. I reported to my manager and she claimed that she has spoken to a staff of the director and they will deal with it internally. I am not satisfied the way it was handled. Please advise what I should do and how this should be appropriately handle. Thanks
M - 11-Mar-16 @ 8:19 PM
Hi I was spank by a client(director of a company) in the building I work in. I report to my manager and she claim that she spoke to a staff of the director and they will deal with it internally. I am not satisfied by the way it was handled as I know that the staff will be too scared to speak to her director. Please advise what I should do and how it should be handle? Thanks
M - 11-Mar-16 @ 8:16 PM
I have a little job in an takeaway shop I have been working there for about 3 years i am the only female. My very good friend got me the job there I have never had any problems till tonight. Basically my friend left on sunday to go to a new career and also on holiday I had Monday off anyway so tonight was my first night in without my friend working there not just their day off but left completely and the owners friend who I've met before several times gave me a hug quite a tight hug and as he hugged me he squeezed my boob several times I'm trying to pull away but he wouldn't let go until I really forced back. I immediately rang my friend who is currently abroad no answer I txt them aswell and he responded as quick as he could. He knows the perpetrator which I have to say doesn't talk very good English none of them do really except my friend he said leave it with me to sort out. I trust him with my life but what I am asking is there anything I should do as it's a takeaway shop so not having a contract is harder.
bex - 9-Mar-16 @ 1:19 AM
I have this person I work with he is a supervisor he keeps asking me outand I tell him no all the time. He inappropriately touches me all the time and says inappropriate things to me.I tell him I don't like it but he coutines to do it whenever he is working I don't want to be in. I have told the manger but nothing has changed what should I do
Saz - 21-Feb-16 @ 9:22 PM
Hi, last year I was accused of inappropriately touching a underage employee. It never happened and everything is on camera and the owner told me that her father wanted to go to the police. I told him to go to the police because nothing ever happened at all. The owner falsely accused me and never fired the girl for lieing. I still had to work there and with her,being the manager I felt helpless. I am supposed to start working back there again(it's a seasonal job) and had a person say as I was shopping at a local grocery store say "isn't that the child molester fromsuch n such. I feel like my name is been drug through the mud all because my boss the owner didn't handle the situation properly.She kept her job even after false accusations which made her look like she was telling the truth.
Jimmy - 12-Feb-16 @ 6:18 PM
I was sexually assaulted, bullied and intimidated by my supervisor at work. It all happened few years ago and I politely confronted him to stop it and ever since then he has been intimidating and bullying me at work, looking all over the places to see where am working to come over there to insult me and make me do jobs over and over again. I will be crying and working, can't sleep at home just because of the pains am going through at work, my partner is equally devastated seeing me crying all night. I have reported the case but the investigation officers are trying to cover up for him by delaying the investigation without no outcome.I have decided not to give up until I get justice. I have never been diagnosed or treated of high blood pressure but as am writing now, I have been placed on severe and serious medications. Please what steps can I take in order to get the right justice and put the supervisor to where he belongs. Thanks
Tina - 15-Jan-16 @ 4:45 PM
Salj- Your Question:
I work in a small cafe, one of my bosses who own the cafe is very inappropriate in his humour and flirtatious. However he is like this with not only me, but other employees and customers but nobody questions anything as that's just what he's like. He is almost 3 times my age so I have never taken anything personally, neither has any of the other employees as he is a joker. However we were working alone one day and he was making more remarks than usual and started becoming closer to me physically. He then touched my leg and bum, then reached to my upper leg and private area, I told him that was enough when he asked "was that too far". He then continued however after me saying it was not funny. He walked away and laughed, I awkwardly laughed too as I was nervous and didn't know how to respond. He then came back and tried to get my hand to touch what he was implying to be his penis over his trousers, I pulled away and said no. He walked away again and then brief comments were made about the situation by him. I now feel as if maybe me laughing lead him on or because I wasn't stern enough he thought I was joking? I don't want to report anything as he has a wife and children but I don't want to return to where I work as I feel physically sick and I can't sleep as it's always on my mind. I feel guilty as I know many have had a worse situation but I feel so unclean and violated. I would quit but I don't have a good enough reason to tell his lovely wife, my second boss who also runs the cafe without having to return and see him, something I really don't want to do.

Our Response:
You could simply address this with him, saying how it made you feel and that it was unacceptable. It may be sufficient to put a stop to it and to get things back to normal between you. However, this kind of behaviour does need to be stopped and if you're not comfortable addressing it with the man in question or lodging an official complaint, then you might tryhaving a conversation with the boss. It may be that the situation can be resolved subtly and without his wife knowing of it.
SafeWorkers - 14-Dec-15 @ 2:08 PM
I work in a small cafe, one of my bosses who own the cafe is very inappropriate in his humour and flirtatious. However he is like this with not only me, but other employees and customers but nobody questions anything as that's just what he's like. He is almost 3 times my age so I have never taken anything personally, neither has any of the other employees as he is a joker. However we were working alone one day and he was making more remarks than usual and started becoming closer to me physically. He then touched my leg and bum, then reached to my upper leg and private area, I told him that was enough when he asked "was that too far". He then continued however after me saying it was not funny. He walked away and laughed, I awkwardly laughed too as I was nervous and didn't know how to respond. He then came back and tried to get my hand to touch what he was implying to be his penis over his trousers, I pulled away and said no. He walked away again and then brief comments were made about the situation by him. I now feel as if maybe me laughing lead him on or because I wasn't stern enough he thought I was joking? I don't want to report anything as he has a wife and children but I don't want to return to where I work as I feel physically sick and I can't sleep as it's always on my mind. I feel guilty as I know many have had a worse situation but I feel so unclean and violated. I would quit but I don't have a good enough reason to tell his lovely wife, my second boss who also runs the cafe without having to return and see him, something I really don't want to do.
Salj - 14-Dec-15 @ 1:04 AM
I work for a very small family company and normally results in me working with the owner by myself a few evenings a week, he has been making comments since starting working for him over a year ago which was making me feel really uncomfortable, however there is no one else around so i couldn't really say anything i left for 6 month and my contract ended and I didn't have another job and he offered me my job back so I had no choice to take it until I find another job however over the past 2/3 weeks he has been locking the door and disconnected the security cameras and touching my breasts and pulling my top down and kissing my breasts, feeling my bottom and pulling me on top of him when i say no to him he continues and says he needs to because it makes him happy, now every time am in the shop with him by himself he does it and trys to take it a little bit further I have tried telling him to stop however he says if I don't i will lose my jobhowever there nothing I can do because I have no evidence that he is doing this because he turns the cameras of and theirs nobody else in the shop
llouise - 28-Nov-15 @ 3:08 AM
Confused - Your Question:
I am going to Oz in Jan, had a work night out in which the area manager was there(working in a bar/restraunt) firstly, he said "hope you come back from Oz without your boyfriend" I told him not to speak about him like that, he was constantly overly touchy feely all night, in front of other staff members.also found out from an ex staff member that he touched her up inappropriately.I have told the owner of the business and nothing seems to be getting done about it, my family think I should contact the police in case it happens again.we also know he has had previous past of this happening, as he got kicked out of university due to sexual harassment

Our Response:
Report this via the method suggested in the article above, remember you must do this within 3 months of the incident.
SafeWorkers - 21-Oct-15 @ 11:45 AM
I am going to Oz in Jan, had a work night out in which the area manager was there(working in a bar/restraunt) firstly, he said "hope you come back from Oz without your boyfriend" I told him not to speak about him like that, he was constantly overly touchy feely all night, in front of other staff members...also found out from an ex staff member that he touched her up inappropriately...I have told the owner of the business and nothing seems to be getting done about it, my family think I should contact the police in case it happens again..we also know he has had previous past of this happening, as he got kicked out of university due to sexual harassment
Confused - 20-Oct-15 @ 1:38 PM
I worked in a Care Home and my manager was exceptionally kind to me when I started to work. Then he started to text me and asking me for a drink out. I rejected but he kept texting and texting. I kept rejecting and then he made my life really difficult at work by bullying me. As I really needed this job at that time because one of my family member was ill I have eventually agreed. He appeared to be an alcoholic and drank every night after work. He booked a cheap hotel and forced me to go every time after work to this hotel. If I rejected then he would make a really bad day for me at work. I constantly complained that I am not happy but he just kept threatening and bullying me. It was five months of an awful time. When I complained that somebody was unfair to me at work he always took a part of other person. He always said me that we must keep it quiet. Anyway, after people found out about us everybody took his part and most of the staff started to bully me. At the end he just get rid me by literally dismissing me. This is not even a quartermentioned above about all the awful things that this person has done to me and my family. Over all that months this person just has been destroying me pride and dignity for his own pleasure.
Marry - 12-Oct-15 @ 12:42 PM
On sunday 2 work colleagues continuously poked my sister in her boob to the point off causing physical pain. They also commented on the size off her boobs. She has put in a written complaint to the committee ( she works in a club) but one off the boys she has complained about has called her a grass in front other colleagues and is still work alone side her. What can she do
angry sister - 18-Sep-15 @ 4:31 PM
I started working in a bar/ restaurant about 2 weeks ago the owner of the place comes every day or every other day. First he seemed friendly but today he was chatting to me and grabbed my hand then said oh your hand is cold ,then said I have the cure for that I can make your hands nice and warm if you want. I told the manager but she told me to keep to myself. Now I feel really uncomfortable working there as he owns the place. Plus he keeps making remarks that he bought a new car and has loads of money plus he is divorced.
Shyflower29 - 17-Sep-15 @ 8:50 PM
I have recently joined a small firm from a much larger one, and have joined a small team within it. In this team there are 5 of us. I work closely with an older gentleman, who is married, but lives away from his wife during the week. He is constantly making sexual innuendo comments, and makes strange comments on how other people look, then either states, out of a scale from 0 to 1, i'd give her one, or his other favourite is I'd fancy her if I wasn't gay. I presented to him and my boss on something today and I caught him twice staring at my crotch area as I spoke. I'm so new in the firm that I don't want to say anything but I have noticed that he's started to undermine my work a lot recently, change meetings and not inform me, put undue pressure on me to do work for him (he's not my boss, but we're in the same team) and get up to speed on work topics faster than is possible. I'm finding it all a bit unnerving to be quite honest. No idea what to do! He's 57, I'm 37. Does he feel threatened?
Chris - 14-Sep-15 @ 11:04 PM
Kay - Your Question:
I have worked for a small family company for about 10 years now. I split up from my husband 5 years ago and divorced; in the heat of the moment I went out for a drink with my boss and ended up sleeping with him. It was a one off and didn't happen again. I have been with my partner now for 4 years and love him to bits by my boss is constantly hassling me to meet him and says how much fun we could have together. No matter how much I tell him and how many different ways I say no he will not take any notice. He even booked a hotel room a few months ago for us to meet!! I told him to cancel it and he was in a mood for days - I thought he'd finally got the hint but no it still carries on. I am at my wits end now and dread coming to work

Our Response:
Even though this is a small family company, you must take action to stop this, especially if you're now dreading going to work. Follow the steps advised in the article above. We also have a Q&A article on this topic that might help: Sexual Harrassment: Your Questions Answered
SafeWorkers - 28-Aug-15 @ 11:38 AM
I have worked for a small family company for about 10 years now.I split up from my husband 5 years ago and divorced; in the heat of the moment I went out for a drink with my boss and ended up sleeping with him.It was a one off and didn't happen again.I have been with my partner now for 4 years and love him to bits by my boss is constantly hassling me to meet him and says how much fun we could have together.No matter how much I tell him and how many different ways I say no he will not take any notice.He even booked a hotel room a few months ago for us to meet!! I told him to cancel it and he was in a mood for days - I thought he'd finally got the hint but no it still carries on.I am at my wits end now and dread coming to work
Kay - 27-Aug-15 @ 2:40 PM
I was working in a restaurant where one of the supervisors, who asked me out earlier on in 2014 but i declined, had been sexually assaulting me. It began a couple of months after i rejected him. It started as him grabbing my ass, and then it got to the point where he would make a grab for my chest and ask me what bra i was wearing that day. I was apprehensive about going to the manager with the matter as they were considered good friends. In may 2015 i quit and i realize now that it was not the proper way to deal with the matter. This article is hugely helpful and will hopefully help a lot of other people in the similar situation i was in.
Anne - 15-Jul-15 @ 1:36 AM
@concerned. Yes tell her to voice her concerns to her manager, rather than trying to address them with the person directly if that would make her feel uncomfortable. They should take this behaviour seriously, if they do not appear to do anything to prevent further incidents then she should make a formal complaint. We have a question and answer article on here which you might find more useful.
SafeWorkers - 3-Jul-15 @ 11:28 AM
@Angryhusband. If the employer has not handled the complaint satisfactorily, then your wife should consider taking this to a tribunal. Follow the steps in the above article in the section: "When and Why Should I Take my Case to a Tribunal?"
SafeWorkers - 1-Jul-15 @ 12:43 PM
this is on behalf of my girlfriend, not sure how, buti want to advise her properly and how to proceed, she has been getting unwanted attension from a coworker im not sure if it classes as sexual herassment but he was making fun of the way she looks like by calling her fat and stuff. but recently he jabbed her in the side to make her jump, he gets too close to her when hes talking and it makes her very uncomfortable, and shes been extreamly upset, i want was hopeing to help her, ive told her that on her next shift to tell her manerger, or would it be better if she talked to him directly first to hopefully make it clear that she doensnt want any kind of attension. on her first shift together he asked if she was in a relationship she didnt want to talk about it and she felt uncomfortable then. sorry its getting too long any advise?
concerned - 30-Jun-15 @ 11:05 AM
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