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Sexual Harassment at Work

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 28 Sep 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
What Constitutes Sexual Harassment At

The law makes it clear that sexual harassment is definitely not acceptable. Whilst there is no strict definition as to what constitutes sexual harassment, the Sex Discrimination Act gives you the legal right not to be sexually harassed at work and it is also unlawful to treat women (or men) less favourably because of their sex.

What Constitutes Sexual Harassment?

Sexual harassment constitutes any unwelcome behaviour of a sexual nature. It's not about fun or friendship but about the abuse of power. It is also worth bearing in mind that many people respond to situations in different ways. What may seem like an innocent action or remark to one person may be deemed offensive by another and the law sides with the 'victim' not the 'perpetrator'. Since there is no single definition, the test is how the recipient feels about the behaviour. Whilst men can also be subject to sexual harassment, the vast majority of cases have been by women against men. It is estimated that 50% of women in employment are, or have been, subject to sexual harassment of some form or other. It doesn't just happen to women who work in large offices or those who work within a predominantly male working environment; it can happen to people in any occupation, to any age group and from every community.

It can take place in many forms which can broadly be categorised in 3 groups:

Verbal

  • Comments about appearance, body or clothes
  • Indecent remarks
  • Questions or comments about your sex life
  • Requests for sexual favours
  • Sexual demands made by someone of the opposite sex, or even your own sex
  • Promises or threats concerning a person's employment conditions in return for sexual favours

Non-Verbal
  • Looking or staring at a person's body
  • Display of sexually explicit material such as calendars, pin ups or magazines

Physical
  • Physically touching, pinching, hugging, caressing, kissing
  • Sexual assault
  • Rape

What Can I do About Sexual Harassment?

In the first instance, you should try to confront the harasser. It may be that their perception of harassment is not the same as yours and they didn't realise you found their behaviour offensive. When you confront them you should:
  • Speak clearly and slowly, maintaining direct eye contact
  • Describe the behaviour, its effects on you and that you want it to stop
  • Ignore any attempts to trivialise or dismiss what you have to say
  • Don't smile or apologise. This will undermine your complaint
  • When you have finished what you want to say, walk away - the less you say, the more powerful you will be

However, you do need to speak up straight away. It may be that you choose a confidante, a colleague or union representative to give you moral support. They could also act as a witness to any incidents of improper behaviour.

If you feel you can't confront the harasser face to face, you might prefer to write to them to explain that their behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and that you want it to stop. Keep a copy of the letter and let them know that if their behaviour persists, you will take the matter further.

Keep a Diary

Note down all the behaviour that offends you, the dates, times and location where the behaviour took place and if there were any other people present, keep a record of their names. This will help you if you need to make an official complaint.

What if it Continues?

Once you've confronted the perpetrator, if the behaviour continues you need to tell your employer. Many employers have a procedure - follow it. Your employer should investigate your complaint and deal with it. You have the right to take someone with you to any meetings about your complaint. They can back you up if necessary. Once again, keep a written record of everything that happens.

When and Why Should I Take my Case to a Tribunal?

Employment Tribunals are external committees who assess whether employers have acted unlawfully and seek to resolve the problem. You should go to a tribunal if:
  • The harassment continues after you've told the perpetrator to stop and you've reported it to your employer
  • The harasser owns the company and there's no-one else to complain to
  • If you are not happy with the way the investigation was handled and/or you are not satisfied with the outcome

You MUST File Your Complaint Within 3 Months of The Incident Taking Place.

The Employment Tribunals Commission and your local Citizen's Advice Bureau can offer you excellent guidance and advice about this type of complaint.

Sexual harassment at work threatens your confidence and self-esteem. It can stop you working effectively, undermines your dignity and it can affect your health and happiness.

Nobody should be subjected to it. Fortunately, a variety of laws exist to protect you.

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Unknown - Your Question:
A member of staff has an interest in me that is not reciprocated. He started by forcing himself upon me when intoxicated. I pushed him off and told him to go home. He apologised for his behaviour on this occasion. After his apologies I assumed he knew where he stood and assumed we were friends. Then he asked me to have an affair with him, attempted to remove items of clothing, buying me gifts, texting and phoning me frequently. I have been politely declining his advances but I am now uncomfortable as the situation continues, despite me making him aware of how I feel. I do not have any faith in my HR team and union reps are unsavoury gossips. Im currently burying my head in the sand but don't know what to do because it needs to stop. Please help!

Our Response:
You must report this to your employer - the HR department should follow the correct procedure and if they don't you can legitimately complain about the action of the employer as well as this particular individual. You need to report sexual harassment within three months of the incident so act fast. Do you have a trusted colleague who help? If you want extra support/individual advice, then ACAS will be able to help. There's also more information in our FAQ
SafeWorkers - 29-Sep-16 @ 9:56 AM
A member of staff has an interest in me that is not reciprocated. He started by forcing himself upon me when intoxicated. I pushed him off and told him to go home. He apologised for his behaviour on this occasion. After his apologies I assumed he knew where he stood and assumed we were friends. Then he asked me to have an affair with him, attempted to remove items of clothing, buying me gifts, texting and phoning me frequently. I have been politely declining his advances but I am now uncomfortable as the situation continues, despite me making him aware of how I feel. I do not have any faith in my HR team and union reps are unsavoury gossips. Im currently burying my head in the sand but don't know what to do because it needs to stop. Please help!
Unknown - 28-Sep-16 @ 1:23 AM
Despair - Your Question:
Im femail working in it male dominated office. Has been assigned to young 26yo manager only just appointed. Ever since started the job there has been weird vibe from him towards me. Soulmate like feeling and seducive tone of voice then streching and showing his biceps as he is concious of his good looks. Watching my reaction and the feeling he is reading me like an open book as if he is implying I know you think im hot and im up for it if you are. Then giving me dirty looks on my bottom and watching me literally flash as how are you suppose to feel being a girl in all man surrounding you. I was clear from very start I am engaged and set strick professional tone. Advances never stopped. Now im off sick couldnt cope any more informed hr who want a meeting and investigate.what and how!???? How on earth am I suppose to prove his behaviour and that its unbearable for me?Please help do I need strong evidence and witnesses for something to change?Thank you your help would be appreciated.

Our Response:
Just make a list of all the reasons as to why you think you've been harassed and simply state your case. The article above should help you.
SafeWorkers - 21-Sep-16 @ 12:33 PM
Im femail working in it male dominated office. Has been assigned to young 26yo manager only just appointed. Ever since started the job there has been weird vibe from him towards me. Soulmate like feeling and seducive tone of voice then streching and showing his biceps as he is concious of his good looks. Watching my reaction and the feeling he is reading me like an open book as if he is implying i know you think im hot and im up for it if you are. Then giving me dirty looks on my bottom and watching me literally flash as how are you suppose to feel being a girl in all man surrounding you. I was clear from very start i am engaged and set strick professional tone. Advances never stopped. Now im off sick couldnt cope any more informed hr who want a meeting and investigate.....what and how!???? How on earth am i suppose to prove his behaviour and that its unbearable for me? Please help do I need strong evidence and witnesses for something to change? Thank you your help would be appreciated.
Despair - 19-Sep-16 @ 4:14 PM
Im femail working in it male dominated office. Has been assigned to young 26yo manager only just appointed. Ever since started the job there has been weird vibe from him towards me. Soulmate like feeling and seducive tone of voice then streching and showing his biceps as he is concious of his good looks. Watching my reaction and the feeling he is reading me like an open book as if he is implying i know you think im hot and im up for it if you are. Then giving me dirty looks on my bottom and watching me literally flash as how are you suppose to feel being a girl in all man surrounding you. I was clear from very start i am engaged and set strick professional tone. Advances never stopped. Now im off sick couldnt cope any more informed hr who want a meeting and investigate.....what and how!???? How on earth am i suppose to prove his behaviour and that its unbearable for me? Please help do I need strong evidence and witnesses for something to change? Thank you your help would be appreciated.
Despair - 16-Sep-16 @ 1:39 PM
Melis - Your Question:
I started working on 5/2016 in a company and after the first week the girls started questioning me about my breasts. I did admit to have had a breast augmentation and one of the girls touched my breast. I told her I was not like that. Well later she started saying comments to our patients like. "Do you want her to give you CPR mouth to mouth" to patients I told her I was not very happy about that. Well she then smaked my buttocks in front of patients and other staff I told her that was embarrassing and not to do that. The charge nurse was there and talked to her. A couple of weeks later she did it again and this time I told the other nurse that is the manager and she only gave her a written warning I'm really upset because I think that was a serious sexual harassment misconduct that should had to been addressed more harsh than just a written warning. I talk to the CEO of the company and nothing is being done. What can I do next?

Our Response:
If you're unhappy with the warning and have addressed this with senior management then your next step is an employment tribunal. You need to talk to ACAS before considering this. You can find the details on their website
SafeWorkers - 6-Sep-16 @ 1:52 PM
I started working on 5/2016 in a company and after the first week the girls started questioning me about my breasts. I did admit to have had a breast augmentation and one of the girls touched my breast. I told her I was not like that. Well later she started saying commentsto our patients like.... "Do you want her to give you CPR mouth to mouth" to patients I told her I was not very happy about that. Well she then smaked my buttocks in front of patients and other staff I told her that was embarrassing and not to do that. The charge nurse was there and talked to her. A couple of weeks later she did it again and this time I told the other nurse that is the manager and she only gave her a written warning I'm really upset because I think that was a serious sexual harassment misconduct that should had to been addressed more harsh than just a written warning. I talk to the CEO of the company and nothing is being done. What can I do next?
Melis - 5-Sep-16 @ 3:01 AM
I'm in the police. A female officer. I've been in for just over two years.There's a lot of banter on section, which can often include innuendos etc... That I don't mind, I'm no wallflower, and I guess it's kind of to be expected. However, my senior line manager, who is 2 ranks above me, can rarely say anything without it being sexually charged. I think he thinks he's hilarious, but I'm not finding him funny at all. I think, I'm pretty sure in fact, that he has a thing for me. He told me himself he 'would' if he could get away with it. (He's married. I have a partner). I felt really awkward when he said that to me. I was alone in his office. Recently I was stood at the photocopier - he was talking to two of my colleagues nearby, then turned to me and said 'M - I want to see you......Naked'. And then chuckled to himself. My two make colleagues looked horrified and I was mortified but didn't react. To be honest, I was so embarrassed that I was lost for words. Also, I recently fell and broke my finger/hurt my back. He texted me to ask what I'd done and I explained. He then replied : 'Have you tried an internal back support? Apparently it's quite beneficial.' My answer was 'What???' Pretending I didn't know what he was going on about and he replied : 'You've lived a sheltered life!!!!' I didn't say anything else. I then feel awkward when I have to see him at work. Although I imagine he thinks that because I am an outgoing person that I wouldn't have any issues with what he's saying, he would be surprised if I complained. I used to react to his comments and try to bat them back to him in defence, but I'm so tired of it now. The thing is, I know that if I said anything at work to someone more senior than him or to a Fed Rep (our union) then it would all get massively serious and it could even destroy his career/pension etc. He's two years off retiring. I'm moving stations soon anyway, but I do feel humiliated in front of colleagues and like none of this stuff should've happened. Especially when it's come from someone who's supposed to stand up for equality and fairness and the law!!!
Miz - 4-Sep-16 @ 3:02 AM
So I started working @this place when i was 17, and i have been dealing with sexual harassment but i have never spoken up about it or complained as i knew as soon as i did he would try to get me fired as he was fired for from his last job for sexual harassment. He has said sexual things asked about my sex life made comments about me and other works he has touched me inappropriately and has previously said that he would put down more hours for me at work if i gave him a massage. I haven't said anything because i had to help my dad with rent and i couldn't afford not to work i then moved out so it made me even more dependable on work. I have cried over this as i just didn't know how to deal with it. I recently just left my job and now my pay has been done wrong and he did it. Which is weird because my pay has always been right. Until i decided to leave. This has causedemotional stress to the point in where i have lost weight and if he wasn't working there i would still be there. My mum thinks i should sue but i dont have any idea how to even go about it
anon - 30-Aug-16 @ 6:54 PM
Hya, My question would be! Is that sexual harassment if I sent a picture to my female colleague when I was drunk and his BF seen it first hand, but we had a great and respectful relationship at work, never been uncomfortable for her or for me?
MrChef - 16-Aug-16 @ 10:40 AM
Is this sexual harrassment or am I just being over sensitive. A colleague at my work manages to turn every situation in our workplace into an opportunity to make sexual remarks and suggestions. For example today I had made a comment to another colleague today that my legs and knees were killing me and he overheard and straight away said who have you got over there and what are you doing with him that's making your legs and knees sore. That's only an example there is loads similar to that and he also keeps commenting that I am teasing him and I know that's not true because I go out my way to try and avoid him because he's upsetting me to the point I don't want to go to work. Yesterday when I went to sign out he grabbed me and started cuddling me and I had to pull away from him then tonight when I was signing out he said where's my cuddle tonight then. He doesn't do all this to anyone else and I'm not coping very well with it. Am I just getting over upset about nothing? Help please
Shell - 12-Aug-16 @ 10:03 PM
Claire - Your Question:
I have recently been promoted to a different department within my company. I am new ish to the role and have been finding generally the whole process a bit challenging. The company I work with have placed a buddy system for everyone so that if we need cover or help we can go to our buddy. My buddy has made me feel increasingly more uncomfortable. Asking to see my feet and grabbing my ankles when I walk up stairs and commenting on my appearance and body. The worst was when he was observing me working and my hair was tied up, he grabbed my hair and pulled my head back and started thrusting into the back of my chair. I felt embarrassed and scared so just sat and tried to keep working. He has been saying this is all a joke and he's being harmless but because he is in the same role as me but slightly senior and been in the company longer I feel scared to tell him how I feel. Do I have any options on someone to speak to? I'm scared to tell anyone in case he gets angry at me and causes more drama. I am also scared that if I tell someone nothing will be done about it. Just confused at the moment!

Our Response:
This kind of behaviour is not acceptable. Report it to your HR department or a senior manager.
SafeWorkers - 11-Aug-16 @ 2:22 PM
JV - Your Question:
As a man I have continuously been subjected to sexual harassment by women since school, I'm now in my mid 30s and it's still never discussed. I've recently left my job at a ftse 100 company due to my female manager making constant sexual advances towards not only myself but other members of the team.Suggestive comments, inappropriate touching, telling me it would be in my best interest if I wanted to progress my career.At a recent staff meal she slid her hotel key across the table towards me, when I declined she became very aggressive and stormed out. Once it became clear to her that I wasn't going to reciprocate she proceeded to make my working life hell.Reprimands for dreamt up reasons, poor performance reviews, constantly changing my working hours, being blamed for other people's mistakes.When I brought it to the attention of hr I was told not to make a fuss.Cant help think if it was in reverse I would have been prosecuted in 2 seconds.It seems it's acceptable for woman to asexually harass men.

Our Response:
Your HR dept is completely in the wrong here, they should treat accusations of sexual harrassments from all genders, seriously.
SafeWorkers - 11-Aug-16 @ 1:49 PM
I have recently been promoted to a different department within my company. I am new ish to the role and have been finding generally the whole process a bit challenging. The company I work with have placed a buddy system for everyone so that if we need cover or help we can go to our buddy. My buddy has made me feel increasingly more uncomfortable. Asking to see my feet and grabbing my ankles when I walk up stairs and commenting on my appearance and body. The worst was when he was observing me working and my hair was tied up, he grabbed my hair and pulled my head back and started thrusting into the back of my chair. I felt embarrassed and scared so just sat and tried to keep working. He has been saying this is all a joke and he's being harmless but because he is in the same role as me but slightly senior and been in the company longer I feel scared to tell him how I feel. Do I have any options on someone to speak to? I'm scared to tell anyone in case he gets angry at me and causes more drama. I am also scared that if I tell someone nothing will be done about it. Just confused at the moment!
Claire - 10-Aug-16 @ 9:47 AM
As a man I have continuously been subjected to sexual harassment by women since school, I'm now in my mid 30s and it's still never discussed. I've recently left my job at a ftse 100 company due tomy female manager making constant sexual advances towards not only myself but other members of the team. Suggestive comments, inappropriate touching, telling me it would be in my best interest if I wanted to progress my career. At a recent staff meal she slid her hotel key across the table towards me, when I declined she became very aggressive and stormed out. Once it became clear to her that I wasn't going to reciprocate she proceeded to make my working life hell. Reprimands for dreamt up reasons, poor performance reviews, constantly changing my working hours, being blamed for other people's mistakes. When I brought it to the attention of hr I was told not to make a fuss. Cant help think if it was in reverse I would have been prosecuted in 2 seconds. It seems it's acceptable for woman to asexually harass men.
JV - 10-Aug-16 @ 1:00 AM
I would like this to stay confidential and not like the employees to know but what happens is I got a job at amber windows in Walsall and the manager was new his name was Gareth and he seemed a nice guy I was 17 at the time this was a few months ago but he started to get friendly and wouldn't comment and say I looked sexy and comment like that he then found out about me Bering close friends with one of the male staff and said you two like each other we didn't we are both in happy relationships and he said I'll pay for you two to get a hotel room and allways for the few weeks of me being there would make me feel uncomfortable and not want to go to work as the reason I left I am afraid he did have my address so don't want him to know it is me making This complaint I have a few witnesses also but I also feel embassed he also brought his brother on who would flirt with my friend Charly (female) I'd like the company to be aware as I have now for no confidence and afraid to work
Paige - 25-Jul-16 @ 3:06 AM
Baal - Your Question:
One morning at work, I was talking to a male collegue, when a female worker "A" walked past us. I made a quiet amusing sexual comment to him about her figure. She did not hear it. I have had minimal interaction with female "A" at any time. Only things every being said were "good mornings", or "how are you today"Later that day, this male collegue gave a lift home to female worker "B", and then told female "B" what I had said about female "A".Female "B" was having a leaving party in a bar 3 days later, and mentioned what I had said about female "A" to Female "C".Female "C" approached the HR department the following day, telling them what I had said, and now my company are accusing me of sexual harrassment.I belived that sexual harrassment was when one person did or said something to another, directly.Not when someone says something in confience to a work collegue, only for it to pass via 2 other people, before an accusation is made?

Our Response:
We're really not sure on this one but we guess female A should be the one bringing the case if anyone? Our own summary is above in the article but Citizens' Advice summarizes sexual harassment as follows: Sexual harassment is where the unwanted behaviour is of a sexual nature. Sexual harassment is also unlawful under the Equality Act. This can include:
sexual comments or jokes
physical conduct, including unwelcome sexual advances, touching, sexual assault
displaying pictures, photos or drawings of a sexual nature
sending emails with a sexual content.
Try ACAS on 0300 123 1100
SafeWorkers - 21-Jul-16 @ 12:59 PM
One morning at work, I was talking to a male collegue, when a female worker "A" walked past us. I made a quiet amusing sexual comment to him about her figure. She did not hear it. I have had minimal interaction with female "A" at any time. Only things every being said were "good mornings", or "how are you today" Later that day, this male collegue gave a lift home to female worker "B", and then told female "B" what I had said about female "A". Female "B" was having a leaving party in a bar 3 days later, and mentioned what I had said about female "A" to Female "C". Female "C" approached the HR department the following day, telling them what I had said, and now my company are accusing me of sexual harrassment. I belived that sexual harrassment was when one person did or said something to another, directly. Not when someone says something in confience to a work collegue, only for it to pass via 2 other people, before an accusation is made?
Baal - 20-Jul-16 @ 11:40 AM
Mra04 - Your Question:
I was assaulted at work back in January, I was taken to a room under false pretences and forcibly kissed by a colleague twice the size of me. Who was stood over me as I was sat down in a chair. It took me three times to say no for him to let go of me and let me leave the room. I left work that day distraught and confided In a colleague later that day who then reported it to my CEM. She called me into the office the day and asked me what had happened, I explained and she asked if I wanted to take it further then added at the end of that sentence" you will have to be prepared for the consequences" I decided not to pursue this and consequently faced my attacker verbally abusing me to my face and behind my back causing me to eventually break down to a trusted colleague who took it upon herself to report my distress to management. I was interviewed three times by my store manager and regional manager each time with a different member of staff to note take apparently in a confidential manner. This was not confidential as other members of staff came forward to me and confided that my attacker had made inappropriate comments towards them too. Anyway my attacker was suspended on full pay then sacked a month later I don't know what for as nothing was ever relayed back to me.Now I have reached the stage where I can not face going to work. I am now on stage one absence and have stepped down from my role of team leader to go back go what I started doing six years ago. My work was affected and today have received a letter from my CEM that I failed in my role as team leader and let them down. Ikea's overworked, untrained, unsupported and expected to take on more than my job role at a drop of a hat with sometimes no notice what so ever. I really do not want to return to work and have written my letter of resignation but have been told I HAVE to work four weeks notice or I will end up owing money to my employer. is there anything at all I can do about this?

Our Response:
Not really but you could simply offer to pay the money or you might want to consider taking it to a tribunal for constructive dismissal.
SafeWorkers - 20-Jul-16 @ 11:36 AM
I was assaulted at work back in January, I was taken to a room under false pretences and forcibly kissed by a colleague twice the size of me. Who was stood over me as I was sat down in a chair. It took me three times to say no for him to let go of me and let me leave the room. I left work that day distraught and confided In a colleague later that day who then reported it to my CEM. She called me into the office the day and asked me what had happened, I explained and she asked if I wanted to take it further then added at the end of that sentence" you will have to be prepared for the consequences" I decided not to pursue this and consequently faced my attacker verbally abusing me to my face and behind my back causing me to eventually break down to a trusted colleague who took it upon herself to report my distress to management. I was interviewed three times by my store manager and regional manager each time with a different member of staff to note take apparently in a confidential manner. This was not confidential as other members of staff came forward to me and confided that my attacker had made inappropriate comments towards them too. Anyway my attacker was suspended on full pay then sacked a month later I don't know what for as nothing was ever relayed back to me.Now I have reached the stage where I can not face going to work. I am now on stage one absence and have stepped down from my role of team leader to go back go what I started doing six years ago. My work was affected and today have received a letter from my CEM that I failed in my role as team leader and let them down. Ikea's overworked, untrained, unsupported and expected to take on more than my job role at a drop of a hat with sometimes no notice what so ever.I really do not want to return to work and have written my letter of resignation but have been told I HAVE to work four weeks notice or I will end up owing money to my employer.. is there anything at all I can do about this?
Mra04 - 18-Jul-16 @ 9:44 PM
Anon - Your Question:
I was recently subjected to comments on my body when bending at work. Personal questions and two male colleagues having a sexually explicit conversation in front of me. I said their behaviour was inappropriate and was told "I love it". I have reported this. I am extremely upset and no longer feel I can work with these people. Can my manager force me to do shifts with them?

Our Response:
Your manager should deal with the situation as described in the article. If you're not happy with the way it's been dealt with your need to consider taking it to a tribunal (also described in the article).
SafeWorkers - 11-Jul-16 @ 10:12 AM
I was recently subjected to comments on my body when bending at work. Personal questions and two male colleagues having a sexually explicit conversation in front of me. I said their behaviour was inappropriate and was told "I love it". I have reported this. I am extremely upset and no longer feel I can work with these people. Can my manager force me to do shifts with them?
Anon - 8-Jul-16 @ 5:53 AM
The assistant manager of my workplace coerced me into sexual activity (which was against my sexual orientation) when I was in a vulnerable position. Our workplace has quite a social element and we often go out together as a team. when I was intoxicated and she offered to take me to my accommodation where she then initiated sexual contact. I'm an openly gay man and when I aired discomfort she told me I should try being with a woman as I might enjoy it. I ended up feigning nausea and when she eventually left she told me not to tell anyone what happened. I felt terriblyupset and now find it extremely awkward working with her as I feel as if she is deliberately making things difficult for me.
Hub - 21-Jun-16 @ 1:30 AM
Lors85 - Your Question:
My director put his hand up my skirt at xmas party. I was disgusted and voiced this to collegues but with no intention of making a complaint. However someone else has reported it twice and I have said not to take it further. 3rd time this collegue went to hr demanding something get done. (He's angry about dept redundacy and wants to highlight managers lack of managerial skills). Anyway I did confirm to hr it happened but I'm not making a complaint. They don't care they have to fully investigate. So now my director knows and I can't concentrate in work. How can I get through these last 3 months. I have anxiety that's making me freak out and panic. Can I get time off during investigation or early redundacy as I don't want a big sick note following me to next job.

Our Response:
You shouldn't be made to feel anxious - an incident of sexual harassment has rightly been reported on and acted upon. Explain to your line manager or a colleague in HR about your feelings and they might be able to help by moving you to another office. If you're being made redundant anyway, they might let you take "gardening leave"
SafeWorkers - 20-Jun-16 @ 2:43 PM
My director put his hand up my skirt at xmas party. I was disgusted and voiced this to collegues but with no intention of making a complaint.However someone else has reported it twice and I have said not to take it further. 3rd time this collegue went to hr demanding something get done.(He's angry about dept redundacy and wants to highlight managers lack of managerial skills). Anyway I did confirm to hr it happened but I'm not making a complaint.They don't care they have to fully investigate. So now my director knows and I can't concentrate in work. How can I get through these last 3 months. I have anxiety that's making me freak out and panic.Can I get time off during investigation or early redundacy as I don't want a big sick note following me to next job.
Lors85 - 19-Jun-16 @ 8:47 PM
I have been accused of sexual harassment where my personality of being open and flirty has got me in trouble.I believe at all time the conversations were consensual and I treated these colleagues as good friends. If these conversations were going on for 18 months etc and only reported now surely it must challenge the offence that was taken.Thoughts please
Stephen - 18-Jun-16 @ 2:57 PM
What if you're getting sexual harassed but you don't have any proof? Also the it's an independent business so they are all family but all doing it? I feel like a piece of meat working, no woman or no man should feel like that. I don't know what to do especially cause my hours are extremely long and I'm the only female worker..
Foodpalace - 17-Jun-16 @ 1:43 AM
Dancing behind a colleague on a dance floor. May have touch her bum. Not sure as in drink. Suspended from work. Is this a sackable offence
Sil - 9-Jun-16 @ 12:07 PM
My husband has been sexually harassed at his work place by his manager and his team leader, both of which are men. He was subjected to this for 1year and only told me about it recently,when both of them left the company to work in a different area. They would make inappropriate sexual remarks/ comments, they constantly stared at him whilst he worked, particularly looking as he bent over. For example as my husbands job involves heavy lifting he has to bend down constantly and both men would say things such as " how they would like to give him a good seeing to, and one would smell him and say his smells " good enough to eat. The manager also groped my husbands private area, then he laughed it off. There are quite a lot of other incidents aswell. My husband has since reported this to his new manager 3 weeks ago but no one has mentioned anything since. My husband has said to me that he felt very embarrassed and angry because he didn't report it sooner , but this was because he was in shock and didn't know how to react. What should we do next ?? Please could you give us some advice. I would appreciate it . Kelly.
Kel - 31-May-16 @ 11:24 PM
Nobody - Your Question:
I recently started a new job and I am still on probation. My assistant manager has been a bit over friendly but not what I would consider inappropriate. That is, until a few days ago. I was asked to come in for training and told I did not require uniform for this and so I wore a vest top because it was a warm day. He made a remarkable about the size of my breasts in front of another colleague. I was stunned and my colleague agreed that my breasts were in no way "on display" or "inviting". It has made me a little uncomfortable because I have to continue to work with him - and his girlfriend. I don't know how to approach the situation as I don't think he meant to offend me however I don't want him to think it is appropriate. Also, because I am still on probation, I would not want to risk losing my job.

Our Response:
You might want to take a look at our guide sexual harrassment: your questions answered where similar questions have been addressed.
SafeWorkers - 13-May-16 @ 12:49 PM
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